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Fourth Annual Bold Moves October
Are you ready to change your life? Bold Moves October is an initiative started on DateByNumbers intended to give people the confidence to take charge of their own lives and direct their destinies. It’s not about getting the date or the job, it’s about acknowledging that you are worthy of what you desire.
BMO is thirty-one days of empowerment, vulnerability, embracing your fears and using them as momentum, as fuel. It’s the pure conversion of worry to hope and the belief that if you throw enough wishes into the fountain, one of them will be the one that makes the whole fountain overflow with everything you ever wanted.
It’s about making a fool of yourself and throwing caution to the wind. It’s about knowing that humiliation will make you braver than stagnation ever will. It’s about #YOLO and “do it for the story”. It’s about better opportunities and brighter futures. It’s about getting his number and getting the job, about telling her how you feel and telling them what you deserve. This is about what you’re capable of, what you’re not doing, and what could happen if you enabled your capable self to just do it.
This is about destiny. This is about smashing it into the ground because why limit yourself to Destiny’s Child when you could be Queen Bey? Fear is a drug and you build a tolerance to it every time you swallow it. Wave to the stranger so you can talk to the girl so you can approach the man so you can send the resume so you can write the pitch so you can see your name in lights. And in 30 days, look what’s come because you were fearless and look what hasn’t because you were scared. The only thing you can lose is your chance, so go be joyous in your fearless attempts to light the night. The air is crisp, the season has turned, and the chance is yours.
BOLD MOVES OCTOBER
1. Above anything else, remember it’s only 31 days. You can do anything for a month. But with 31 days, you also need to start right now.
2. Be ready. Get dressed every morning like you’re going to run into your ex. Better yet, get dressed every morning like you’re going to meet the person that changes your life forever.
3. Get a Bold Moves friend. You’re going to need support and you’re going to need to be held accountable when fear holds you back. Report your failures. Reward each other’s successes.
4. Recognize that the first week of this will be harrowing and the last week will be spiritually enlightening. This is your chance.
Send the email. Give the compliment. Say hello. And remember, there’s a whole team behind you tagging every adventure of courage with #BoldMovesOctober / #BMO.
From me, you’ll be seeing tips, challenges, playlists, and my own personal bold moves. Because I can’t get out of this scot free. We’re here to support one another and challenge each other. As my mother told me every day before school: bold, brilliant, and beautiful equals dangerous. You have 31 days to prove to yourself how fearless you can be. You also have 31 days to prove it to everyone else.
Three days ‘til it starts. Get ready.
Submit your story here.
You will fall in love with someone who annoys you, whose orgasm face looks and feels pathetic. Despite all of this, there’s something keeping you drawn to them, something that makes you want to protect them from the harsh world. What you fail to realize, however, is that you are the harsh world. You aren’t their noble protector — you are someone to be protected from but it takes a lot of dates, a lot of nights where you question whether or not you are actually a good person, for this to ever resonate with you. When it’s over and whatever love is left is put back in the fridge like a sad plate of leftovers, you will finally understand that you have the power to hurt someone. You can either hurt them or love them and it’s up to you to decide what kind of role you would like to take on in future relationships. What feels more comfortable — being the one who loves more or being the one who’s loved less?
You will fall in love with someone who’s cold and always seemingly pushing you away. When all is said and done, they will be forever known as the one person you couldn’t get to love you. Unfortunately, it will hurt and sting worse than the good ones, the ones that chopped up your meat for you and picked out an eyelash from your eye and were nice to your mother, because love often feels like a game we need to win. And when we lose, when we realize we couldn’t get what we ultimately desired from a person, it makes us feel like a failure and erases all the memories of those who loved us in the past. It’s a permanent smudge on your love resume.
You will fall in love with someone for one night and one night only. They’ll come to you when you need them and be gone in the morning when you don’t. At first, this will make you feel empty and you’ll try to convince yourself that you could’ve loved this person for longer than a night, but you can’t. Some people are just meant to make cameo appearances, some are destined to be a pithy footnote. That’s okay though. Not every person we love has to stick around. Sometimes it’s better to leave while you’re still ahead. Sometimes it’s better to leave before you get unloved.
You will fall in love with the old couple down the street because to you they represent the impossible: a stable, long-lasting love. You’re trying to get someone to like you for more than ten minutes. A monogamous “never get sick of ya” love seems unfathomable. “What’s your secret, sir? Do you just say yes a lot?”
You will fall in love with smells, the good and the bad kind. You will want to wear your lovers shirt because it makes you feel close to them and you’re okay with being that PSYCHO who is legitimately sniffing their shirt in public. You will fall in love with sweat, certain perfumes, the smell of the season in which you fell in love. This particular love smells like fall. It smells like Halloween and a roaring fire and leaves and fog and mist and candy and food and family and whiskey and sex and the lint that collects on sweaters. When it ends, if it ends, you will never experience another fall without thinking of him, her, it. The memories will stick to the ground like a mound of leaves and will only dissipate when the weather drops.
You will fall in love with your friends. Deep, passionate love. You will create a second family with them, a kind of tribe that makes you feel less vulnerable. Sometimes our families can’t love us all the time. Sometimes we’re born into families who don’t know how to love us properly. They do as much as they can but the rest is up to our friends. They can love you all the time, without judgement. At least the good ones can.
This is where I’m supposed to tell you that you will fall in love with The One, a person who isn’t too cold or too nice. Their “O” face is perfectly fine and they’re not afraid to show how much they love you. This person is supposed to wait for us at the end of the twentysomething road as some kind of reward for all the heartache and loneliness. We deserve them. We’ve earned this kind of love.
So fine. You’re going to fall in love with The One. You’re going to fall in love with someone who will make sense beyond college or a job or a particular season. They’ll make sense forever and won’t ever want to leave you behind. I’m telling you this not because it’s true but because it NEEDS to be true. Everyone is entitled to this kind of love, so why not? Have it. It’s yours. Blow out the candles on your 30th birthday, holding their hand, and let out an exhale that’s been waiting for ten years. Do it. Now
Ryan O’Connell (via fuckinq)
"They’ll make sense forever and won’t ever want to leave you behind" I fucking love this whole thing. I can’t wait for someone to love me forever and love them back forever. Be careful who you "fall in love" with, some people hurt you to save themselves. I’m just trying to find someone who wants love as much as I do
this is a joke this has to be a joke